Spiritual Guidance and Spiritual Healing thru Lessons of Love.

You Can Choose to Release Your Sadness

You have asked that I speak of sadness. We are able to feel sadness within us in different ways. And some which we call sadness may be indeed properly identified by other terms, so we must first look at what we are terming sadness. Sadness is properly defined as a feeling of loss. We feel that we have lost, and so in that way we grieve. We yearn, we yearn for something. We feel that we have had something taken from us. In some cases we feel that we have mistakingly given something away.

It is okay to be sad. So often on your plane you must justify your feelings, and if you are feeling less than the cheeriest, less than the most jovial, sunshiny, bouncing, then you must explain yourself. It is okay to feel sadness, but then you must go within. Do not explain or defend to others, for the sadness is not a label of something that you have to explain and apologize for or hide, or even wear proudly as some do, as a badge. Whether others think you should be or not, you are still genuinely sad! It doesn't matter what the world says you are allowed to feel, because you feel it! There is no righteous and unrighteous sadness. But sadness does interfere with your energy cycle. So you do need to go within and locate the wound in order to help yourself heal.

There is a purpose for sadness. It cannot be avoided. All who love are going to feel sadness t times. As your ability and capacity for Love grows, your capacity for feeling sadness also grows. This is not wrong. This is sensitivity. This is awareness. Do you think that the Angels and Guides are not saddened when loving relationships cause pain on your plane? However, we are balanced. We are able to bring Joy into our work. We are able to focus on the Joy. We are able to laugh. And have you not wondered sometimes, "How can the Angels, and the Guides laugh and frolic?" Every soul, every Guide you speak to, encounters reasons for sadness. I do not say you have no right, and I do not say there are not reasons. You cannot love without feeling sadness when Love is interfered with, when someone you love is hurt or suffering in some way, or when they leave you to come Home. The feeling of sadness, the awareness of it as it comes to you, the bringing forth of tears, is a natural flow.

But now I must speak to you very plainly. You have the ability to choose, and if you are to grow, you must choose. Will you focus on the Light or the darkness? Will you focus on the Laughter or the tears? You will experience tears. Do not ask me to tellyou how not to experience tears unless you ask me to tell you how not to Love. But you can decide whether to turn your focus to the Light, to the Laughter, to the Joy. If you have to pick up your sadness and bring it with you, then do that. Bring it with you to the Light and let the Light shine in on your sad heart. Focus on the Light, on the Goodness, on the Joy, on the Laughter. This you can do. This you must do, for as you carry this unhappiness without bringing it to the Light, you give it more life. You sustain it.

When you grieve, you do this; and you must do this for awhile. When you grieve for someone whose body has died, this is natural, because it is a phasing out, a closure. The period of grief allows you to carry this sadness in order to gradually let it go and bring in the Light. In this way, sadness has its purpose. You must not chastise yourselves for being sad and grieving. You have sadness within you, and you cannot take the knife of criticism and cut it out. But you can choose to turn to the Light, to sunbathe as it were in the Light, to allow the Light to begin to heal your pain. When you do this, you may not experience an instantaneous healing. You have to be aware that you have a sadness within and be willing to release it after your period of grieving has ended.

It is not always easy to do this. You must understand that you do not give up your Love when you give up your sadness. You do not give up our right to feel sad again. You do not give up anything when you allow sadness to leave you. You not have to clutch Love by holding onto the coattails of sadness. This is a natural misunderstanding. If I speak to you of someone you have known and loved who is no longer with you, and I say to you, "Do you miss this person? Do you love this person?" And you say, "Yes," perhaps a lump comes to your throat and tears come to your eyes because you are remembering a strong Love, remembering the Joy that you shared, and wishing to feel that again. This is all normal.

But sometimes you on Earth have thoughts that cry out, "But no, I cannot laugh an feel Joy. You suffered! I must be sad! Look at what you went through!" To say this to your loved one that suffered would be as if you were to grab onto his ankle while he was trying to skip, making him have to drag you on your belly along behind him. You do not intend to do that, no, but that is certainly what you do when you hold onto sadness. You see? You owe your friend the release of your sadness. This can be done. You will not forget the pain your loved one endured. But you will not continue to carry this sadness and sob it out in your heart, because you have chosen to release it. You have made a choice to make an act of releasing. It is always an intentional act, a learned technique that comes from practice. This is not taught well on your plane.

You have been taught by your Master Teacher Guides about searching for anger and resentment within your heart, and taking them and putting them into a visualized trash bag, a garbage bag. That is a choice, a deliberate technique. You have been given a technique. You have been shown a few techniques involving visualizing, while in meditation, the burning of coal, the coal symbolizing your guilt. This is a technique.

You need also to learn how to release feelings like sadness without feeling guilty for doing so. Many caretakers and counselors on your plane medicate instead of leading their patients to full healing. They do not properly teach opening to the feeling, nor the techniques of clearing feelings that are blocking their patients’ growth. If you cannot find ways to clear your sadness or extended grief, you cannot grow spiritually, because you will become filled with anger, with despair, with great sadness, perhaps with other negativities, and soon there is no room for more Light.

As you clear, you make room for more Light. Now, more Light is what? More Light is more Love. When you release negative feelings, you give yourself more ability to Love. You are involved in an energy cycle, an energy exchange, and so as you give more, you receive more. But to do this means that you necessarily have to work at it continually. What we are teaching you is not a free ride, as you might say. It is not an easy way. No. You work.

You have an opportunity for so much growth now. You have so much that you can accomplish while you are there on the Earthplane. Do not waste your time! You are there on Earth but just a moment. You have many things in your Plan that you have already accomplished, but there are more goals, and you can learn so much more. So hear us as we speak. With love I say, "Get to work! Work harder on your spiritual growth!" I speak to all who will accept my teaching. I speak to all and I will say to all, "Get to work! Clear these areas of blocked feelings from your energy system!" Turn to the Light and let these things go. It is as easy as the decision to do so… and as hard as that. Clearing emotional burdens in order to grow in Light is a conscious decision that every soul who intends to grow while on Earth must make. The reward for this effort is the ability to love more freely, more completely, the ability to feel Joy more deeply.

I say again that the reason for your sadness does not matter. It does not matter what justification you have given these feelings or when they originated. It is time now to let them go. There will be more. That is the course of life on Earth, and sometimes also on the Astral Plane when spiritual cleansing work is necessary. But the fact that more sadness may come to you does not mean that you should keep harboring the spiritual burdens that you have already accumulated. In fact, it means that you need to work harder to continually release, release your sadness into the Lovelight.

You have not failed when something reminds you of a particularly hard time in your past. You fail when you cannot laugh because of the memories of that hard time. Do you understand? If occasionally a line you read in a newspaper or a scene in one of your television or theater dramas reminds you of something in your relationship with a loved one and brings you a moment of sadness, this is simply life on Earth. This is normal. But when you cannot laugh and you cannot experience Joy and you cannot ever allow the sunshine without the tears flowing, you should see danger signals, you should see warning lights telling you that you need to work until you can clear these things and make room for more Light in your life.

Take the sadness out into the sunshine of Love. Let it wash out. If you associate it with your loved one, remember that you are not letting your love for that being wash away when you let that sadness wash away. You are not forgetting their suffering or their love. You are merely washing away the pain. You are not being disloyal. You are not doing anything but creating positive vibrations, for then you have more Love available, more Light available, more positive energy available.

It is more comfortable to some souls sometimes to become martyrs, to say, "Look how much I love. I love so much that I cannot even bear to think of how my loved one suffered! I cannot forget how he suffered!" Do him a favor, friend. Forget! You will not truly forget, of course, but make an effort to act as if you forget the suffering. He doesn't need you to remember how he suffered. He knows you were there. He needs you to share his Joy now. When he is filled to overflowing with Joy because he has come through the fire, so to speak, and is feeling what you might call "on top of the world," because he is Home now, he needs you to grab him up in your arms and swing him around in delight. He does not need or want you to say, "Oh, please! Sit down! I can’t stop crying when I think of how you suffered!"

You can wear you sadness in the same way as in your military you wear upon your uniform the medals to show your injuries. You can proclaim proudly to all who will listen, "These medals are my declarations of Love. This row is how I love my spouse. This row is how I love my children. This is how I love my soulmate. This is how I love my nurse. And look here, see my Purple Heart? See how I suffered because my loved one suffered?" Your loved one, who has suffered, and has his own Purple Heart, but has taken it and put it away in the drawer, and taken off the uniform of the warrior and put on the mantle of Peace and of Joy and Happiness, says, "I put my own medals away, but I cannot hide yours. I cannot turn from them because you keep showing them to me. When you do this, I see only my suffering when I look at you!"

Of course he understands. I speak in dramatics to help you understand. But how much more loving you would be if you would also work hard to put your medals away. He suffered, and he knew you were there beside him, physically or emotionally or spiritually, when he suffered. When you suffer, in whatever form, you do not easily forget the one who lent the hand when you were in the most pain, the one who offered the cooling touch when your fever raged, the one whose arm was beneath you to support you when your legs gave out, and the one who held the basin when you were sick.

You do not need your friend to remain sad in order to remember. One does not need to be reminded of how his wife stood by him during his illness, for example. He does not need to be reminded of how sick he was and how much he needed her. He knows. Yet perhaps she continues to wear the signs of sadness badges because she feels she must proclaim, "But see how much I love him? I cannot bear it when I think of his illness." Who asked her to think of her husband’s illness now, after it is long past?

I do not mock, for I could choose any of your Guides and find from their incarnations many examples of this very human habit. I could certainly choose any of my own lives and find a multitude of such examples. I speak thus only to try to give you illustrations to think about and ways to grow past these challenges.

Sadnesses will come, and you must work continuously to clear them, just as we work to clear them, just as you work to clear hurt feelings, disappointments, jealousies. You work to clear these things so that you can grow more in Love, more in Light, closer to your Creator. Feel joyful when you have the opportunity to learn to sweep the sadness away, or however you wish to visualize it. You are learning techniques that you will use eternally. You are learning at a very fast rate now because of your awareness, because of your communication with us, because of your openness, and your desire to grow spiritually. Despite all the negativities and the energy interferences that are encountered on the Earthplane, you are increasing your rate of learning. So feel Happiness and Joy for the opportunity.

Most sadness comes because you open yourself to Love. All I want you to understand is that when sadness comes, you do not need to continue to hold the sadness in your heart forever in order to prove your Love. On Earth, people sometimes do this in an attempt to validate the depth of their Love, of their dedication, of their devotion. But no! No. It is proof of their fear. The only thing bearing such emotional burdens without release proves is their fear. They are afraid that they will not love that much again, or that they will not be loved that much again, or that it will not be known how sincerely they love. Sometimes they are afraid that they will never feel this much love again. But it is always fear.

It is vital that you clear your heavy burdens in order to be ready for whatever is next in your life on Earth! What is your next stage of growth? What is your next step? You have to get rid of the fear by choosing to clear it out. You have to face that fear. The only way to get rid of it is to face it. You are not going to know ahead of time what is next in your life on Earth without your loved one to share it with. That is sometimes frightening to Learners who lose someone with whom they have shared most of their life. Sometimes it is a lot easier to just keep focusing on how sad they are about the relationship that has changed, the loss that they have experience

So it is your choice whether you will work, whether you will struggle to grow. You are the ones who have to make that decision to give yourselves and your loved ones a clean start, space for more Light. No one is going to do it for you. Your loved ones are not going to blame you. They are not going to condemn you. They know how they feel about those they love. They know how hard they must sometimes work to clear their own feelings of sadness about the pain you have. So if you have more trouble clearing, they are not going to condemn you. But you still are harming both yourself and your loved ones when you refuse to try to walk in more Love, Light, and Laughter!

When sadness comes, do not be fearful, and do not feel guilty. First, allow yourself healing time. You will know. Your soul will speak to you when it is time for cleaning house. You do not clean the house when there is a flood. When your house is in a flood and the mud and the silt comes through and covers everything, you do not begin that day with the cleaning solution and the mops. You leave and head for safety. You go to higher ground. You go higher in the house or to another place, because you cannot do anything yet. You are flooded, and you must leave the high water. It must remain there awhile. You cannot do a thing until time and nature makes the water recede.

Then you will know it is time to come in and begin the awful work of cleaning. If you do not, you will have nothing but a ruined abode. But you will know when it is time. Do not try to hold back the flood when it is bound to come through. If you do that, you are going to get washed away into the water – perhaps at the risk of drowning. Move to higher ground at once, and accept the fact that that area is flooded. But then gather your cleaning tools and the friends who will help you, and be ready to move in there with your Guides and your Helpers when it is time to clean that area and get it shining and spotless, ready to receive and pass on more Light.